She lives with her dad far away but we see each other as much as we can. Also you should have stomped down hard on the “charity shop” chat and told her off for being cruel. I know the title probably makes me sound horrible, but there is a lot more to the story. AITA here? Laura thought my reasons were ''stupid'' and started accusing me of loving Ella more than her which isn't true. Because the reward stops becoming internal (pride, sense of accomplishment) and the kid will start to rely on the external motivation to do the same work (if I pass this exam will you buy me matching shoes?!) My parents rewarded me for being "smart" but never for working hard. Issue is my dad is now 77 and my mom is 71, they are still very fit for their age and have a live in nanny to help out, but lets be honest, they are in the agegroup where it is likely the end is near. The woman’s friend Kellie has children and often mismanages her money. That would mean that her friend and her husband either made a “declaration of parentage” or legally adopted the child. Alright so I'm rewatching the latest installment of Feminist Frequency, and pretty early in when she's tracing the Women as a Reward trope back to Damsel in Distress, she starts talking about the kiss on the cheek thing as a reward. r/AITA: Are you looking for /r/AmItheAsshole ? They usually get along quite well, but after that they called started calling each other every name under the sun. The issue she's having that brought her to Reddit comes from her mother-in-law. When I'm done with my assignment(s), I'll reward myself with something I really like to do (video games, favorite TV show, playing with pets, etc.). I record my classes with a digital recorder and take detailed notes. Cookies help us deliver our Services. It's An Office!! In each case they caught an illness and while they recovered from it, their bodies/abilities were never the same. I know the title probably makes me sound horrible, but there is a lot more to the story. Their parents were 19-years-old at the time. Moved back to my home state, got a job for a while, then finally went back to college part-time. “I will always maintain that for us to build the Nigeria we dream of, we must create strong systems and institutions. It's rather unusual that kids are living with the father. News, events, and goings-on in and around Richmond, Virginia. Story time, OP. Well here I am, but my dad was 51 and my mom 45 when I was born. Yea I'm honestly shocked they were allowed to adopt. Posted by 2 months ago. Press J to jump to the feed. Yeah YTA. Here’s a pro tip when everyone except you thinks you’re doing something you probably are. First and foremost, I decided "I want to do this. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. Since we were both in our early 20s when we got married both agreed that it would be best to wait a few years before bringing kids into the picture. “But how can she ay the cat is named after the kid? Today my bio daughter Laura visited us. Most of them don't work (usually they go off at an inconvenient time and I forget about them), but the ones that do work are extremely useful. I know we made her so happy and didn't regret one minute. Ella's performance in her exams was exceptional. Log In Sign Up. They could have children in the house and provide some stability for a child in the system without committing to raise them to adulthood. She generally meets the pass mark with an occasional high grade. Ella will be having her school prom in the summer and wants a nice dress. If I'm hyperfocusing, I'll take shorter breaks - just 5 minutes every now and then to stand up and walk around. They missed having me in the house, it felt empty they said so they were considering adoption from another country where laws are more lacking as in our country their age would likely prevent them from even being considered, I told them that this was a horrible idea due to thrir age. AITA for embarrassing my dad on FB over his post about being a single dad? I adopted my husbands daughter Ella a few years ago, but have been in her life since she was two, and she has always considered me to be her mother. I always jokingly gave my mom hell for this kind of stuff. User account menu. So my parents had me very late in their lives after a crapton of tries and being told they could not have kids. She typically buys Kellie’s children gifts whenever she visits from out of town. 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